3 Things To Do After Leaving A Toxic Relationship

There were no red flags at the start or maybe even years into your relationship. This wasn’t something you missed. People change and it’s not always for the best. A light switch seemed to turn on one day and your entire world became controlled by someone else. You felt isolated and were afraid to talk to anyone because from the outside your relationship looked perfect. You blamed yourself. You went through all the normal emotions before realizing it was time to regain your confidence and get out.

It’s as if a piece of your soul was sucked out and now you want to feel whole again. Here are three things you can do to start the process.

Realize your self worth.

This is a time you are likely feeling very low and it’s time to rebuild your self-esteem. It’s perfectly fine to accept all of the thoughts and emotions you are feeling and not judge yourself. But, it’s also time to be forgiving to yourself and begin self-care and healing practices.

Think positively.

Try not to let the negative aspects of your situation overwhelm you and instead focus on the positive. The best way to do that is to live in the present moment. You can’t change or fix the past and you can’t worry about the future, but you can enjoy where you are in the moment and the life you are building for yourself. Cherish your values and feel confident in your decisions to move on with your life. Even if others don’t agree with you or don’t understand you, it doesn’t matter. You have done exactly what felt right to you and you don’t deserve to be judged or shamed for your actions.

Take care of your body and your soul.

Self-love/self-care can mean a lot of things. It could be taking a vacation on your own or getting a massage once a month. Your mental and your physical wellbeing need protected right now, so take steps to do just that. Try a new activity like yoga or meditation. Learn to say no if people ask you to do something you don’t want to do. If this isn’t the time to be out with friends, explain to them you appreciate their concern, but you need reflection time alone right now. They will understand. Nourish your soul. Read books, blogs, articles, educate yourself and do the things that bring you the most joy.